No One Above Me, No One Below Me

“Except You—Yeah, You’re definitely below me.”

You and I are are sharing a physical experience on a very physical dimension. Although we’ve been told that every physical component of this reality—from furniture to bodies to walls—is 99% empty space, if you punch someone in the face, with any luck, you’re going to leave a mark. Our hands don’t simply go through walls and faces, and our food doesn’t magically convert into ether once we’ve consumed it. We are used to dealing with the mass, the weight, of this physical reality. We play by the rules of this world: we put in physical work for physical pay, we execute physical actions for physical results, and we think in terms that relate back to what we can feel, see, smell, taste, and hear with our five, very physical senses. The drawback of this approach to life is that we tend to judge things based exclusively on their mass. We observe their physical manifestation, and then decide who is worth more based on several definitive factors:


  • their gender (are they a threat to me/opportunity for me?)
  • their race (are they excessively different than me?)
  • their age (do they have more or less experience than me?)
  • their looks (are they more attractive than me?)
  • their weight (are they healthier/fitter than me?)
  • their occupation (are they more productive/meaningful to society than me?)
  • their socioeconomic status (are they richer/more successful than me?)
  • their education (are they more intelligent than me?)
  • their family (are they more fruitful than me?)
  • their religion (do they agree with my opinions about what is real and true?)
  • their politics (see above)

Once we have assessed (judged) someone about whether they rank above, equal, or below us in any of these categories, we then formulate our interaction strategy. This is different for everyone—for example, some individuals are desperately seeking the approval of the rich, hoping that somehow they’ll be inducted into their ranks. These people are likely to seek out, support, and side with the wealthy. Other individuals resent the rich, considering them the scum of the earth, and treat them accordingly. This is one small example, but it can be applied to just about every factor above: people are okay with some differences if associating with that difference will benefit them, and they are resistant to other differences if they believe it will lower their current position. This hierarchical mindset, with deep roots in theology, capitalism, and segregation, presents success like a ladder, where certain levels (and consequently, groups of human beings) simply must be stepped on or over to reach the top, or at the very least, maintain current standing.

Hierarchical thinking is anchored on a few basic principles, but the main overarching theme is difference. Human beings at their most primitive, egoic level—which we are still operating on today—know themselves to be separate from everyone and everything else, by virtue of their mass. Put simply, the physical distance between us has proven sufficient to convince us that we are not connected. Because of this, every human being becomes an island unto themselves. Our egoic nature then crafts every thought in relation to themself as separate from others, leaving those thoughts tainted with gradients of judgement and comparison. This type of mental monologue directly correlates with the social media boom, which facilitates judgement and capitalizes on comparison and has almost single-handedly led to the disappearance of common ground in religion, politics, and even reality.

By continuing to overemphasize self-concept in the virtual world, modern social binaries have been pushed to extremes in the physical world. Nuance and grey areas of interconnection have evaporated in the context of political and social conversations; in their place has emerged an ever-growing echo-chamber of confirmation bias and carefully crafted belief-reinforcing advertisements and propaganda. The physical world is now designed to keep human beings trapped exactly where they are, burning old, overused electrical impulses into set neural pathways, atrophying the brain, and suppressing humankind’s spiritual and infinite nature.

How can we expect to have a conversation now?

As science has shown us, we are not actually islands unto ourselves. What “we” are, what our bodies are, are dancing atoms, occupying space merely by virtue of speed, light, and quantum fields. The same ingredients that make us dense and “real” make up everything else, and the variation in appearance that we perceive physically is merely the result of differences in speed and frequency—light and sound.

Big PicturE: We’re INVALIDATING Each Other on the basis of light and sound

If we, as a species, ever want to have an actual conversation again, a few key realizations need to light up on our dashboard. In fact, these realizations may be mission critical if we ever hope to move beyond survival into THRIVAL—individually and collectively, as one can’t occur without the other.


We Are All Equal

Your vibrations of light and sound are not superior or inferior to anyone else’s. This means that all opinions are correct, all truths are valid, and all individual experience is real. We tend to favor some opinions over others based on our personal bias, but our personal bias does not a superior opinion make. Instead, it simply separates you from other human beings, cheating you of the chance to develop your own neural plasticity and increase your own emotional intelligence by learning something new and putting yourself in someone else’s shoes.


Within Each Person is A unique Universe

You may have arrived at this point under the impression that you should stop noticing physical differences in peoplethank goodness you kept reading. Physical differences exist for a reason—they represent non-physical variations in light and sound. Pretend that this entire planet is a complex orchestral  piece of music that never ends. The more instruments included, the more dynamic, rich, and beautiful the music is—the more harmonies, the more movement, the more goosebumps it evokes. Every individual on this planet is like THEIR OWN INSTRUMENT, making THEIR OWN SOUND and constructing their OWN SEQUENCE OF NOTES. To tell a Tuba that it needs become a Tambourine is, well, not only a hopeless endeavor, but a cruel one. The Tuba has a sound all it’s own—a story, a matrix, a meaning, a specialty. It is a universe unto itself, one with infinite creative possibilities and capabilities.  To ask it to be anything other than a Tuba is simply not the place of the Tambourine. Moreover, a Tambourine can only understand the world through a Tambourine’s eyes—it truly has no concept of what it’s like to be a Tuba. The only one who has the ability to guide that Tuba is the conductor, who has a direct line to that Tuba that you do not have. In fact, only the conductor can communicate with the Tuba. All that you can do is play your song the best you can, finding a complimentary note to form a harmony with the Tuba’s song, and ensuring your rhythm never falters—that is the equivalent of offering unconditional love to the self and others.



To everyone else but you. Let it go.

People can be brainwashed, but that is not instilling them with truth. People can be raised on a religion, but that does not guarantee that it ever actually resonates with them. People can be indoctrinated into a cult or a political club, but that doesn’t mean they’re there for any other reason than coercion or club benefits.

The only person who knows their own heart is, well—them. People must discover things in their own time, in their own way. No matter how compelling you are, how much “good sense” you make, or how much you care for their immortal soul, you simply cannot move someone’s heart.

So stop forcing you truth. It’s okay to let go. Get this: you can be the only one who believes in your truth and it is STILL VALID. You are your own universe, and you make the rules—for you. You don’t need vast numbers of people to believe what you believe simply to reassure you of what you “know.” If you know it, you simply live it. Trust that your overflow of joy, kindness, and love will be the best witness of your truth to others.


This Is All A Game

I know, I know. Try telling that to someone who is suffering—it’s the age-old comeback!

And you know what, you’re right. “Game” is the wrong word. “Game” is a word of the old paradigm—it insinuates that it’s possible to “win” or “lose” in the experience of life. This insinuation is in direct contradiction with the universe’s message, which we see in nature and all around us in every day—in suffering and in joy—if you are having a conscious experience, then you are winning. Every aspect of this experience is various gradients of “winning,” none greater or lesser than the other.

It’s hard to realize this when things seem to be crumbling all around you. It’s nearly impossible to realize this when you feel you are being denied things that you desire. But can you think back to a moment of ecstasy? I’m willing to wager you’ve had one or two. When you’re flooded with the peace that comes with surrender to the present moment (which we tend to only allow in moments of joy), you suddenly know exactly what life is about—living.

It’s about the black AND the white. It’s about joy AND sorrow. It’s about Republicans AND Democrats. It’s about every extreme and everything in between. It’s about refining your instrument. It’s about being the best song that you can possibly be.

We tend to take things awfully seriously in this world. Everything is a matter of life or death. But it’s never been about life or death. It’s been about life AND death. They play together in every moment. Death is in the moments you choose to separate yourself from the Divine by denying the truths within your heart and in the hearts of your fellow humankind. Life is in the moments that you choose to unite, surrender, and allow the power of the Divine to validate and heal you and those around you.

We haven’t perfected it yet, and that’s okay.

We’re here to learn, and that’s precisely what we’re doing. You can’t mess it up.

So wrap yourself up in a little grace and love—reach out to your supports, take time to nourish and care for yourself—and as you heal on your path, you will begin to effortlessly find common ground, compassion, and empathy in your interactions with others.

Endless love to you, Divine I-Am.


Author – Amanda Dollinger